Clearing Things Up

Okay, so it turns out between a little post on Kristen's Facebook and this blog there has been some excitement/confusion about my life. Understandable, my life is confusing and changes daily. But to set the record straight...

Zach and I have always said, since high school, that after we both graduated college we would get married. Obviously things have gone a little differently for him, school wise, but it would have been around now had things gone that way anyways. Then, since getting back together last September we kind of knew that was it, we were done with all of the questioning and we were either in it forever or we would have to break up again and be done with each other forever. Since moving out here and living together, away from our parents and friends, we've also known that it was coming pretty soon. We had been discussing it, but then once Zach decided on the military path we knew it was more imminent. We now have a reason for the marriage/wedding to be now as opposed to some random time in the future.

So, hes been considering the military since probably early December, and at that point the idea of getting engaged and married was still very stressful for me, and probably him too. I mentioned it briefly to my mom in a phone call at some point, probably closer to January, but wasn't even willing to talk about it too much at that point. Over time we got more comfortable and excited with it, and we've talked about it more. My parents are now fully aware of the situation. Well, my mom is.. my dad thinks I'm still 21 apparently so he might think I'm too young, I'm not clear on whats going on there lol. Zach's mom and probably a fair amount of his family knows, depending on who she has mentioned it to. I recently, within the past few weeks, told Kristen, Bird and Caitlin. Oh and Isabella has known for quite some time because shes out here visiting and she is going through the same process.

Anyways, it seems the cat is now out of the bag. We weren't trying to hide it, just waiting til it was official because that would (I guess?) make it easier to take about about bring up. Kristen and I said something about the venue being in Charleston potentially, because Zach will hopefully be going to school there. I have also mentioned it in these blogs, but since Facebook changed its layout there isn't really a link to this blog, so most people aren't seeing it. Well between the two I got a storm of Facebook comments, messages, chats and text messages in the past oh 18 hours. I appreciate all of the comments and questions, but I figured I would put out what we have figured out so far on here.

Zach and I found "the ring" most likely and now we are going through the steps of when we will buy it and stuff. It's amazing, so obviously we'll be getting officially (if you want to use that word) engaged shortly after... because, well, I want to wear it. We will be home very, very soon, so when we know hes about to enlist, or shortly after, we will go to the Courthouse and get married on paper so everything is squared away on that end. Initially I figured just the two of us would deal with it, because its just a Courthouse, but a few people have mentioned coming, and I actually love that idea. So I'm currently thinking the Leesburg Courthouse.. not just because its close (you can go anywhere in the state) but its also beautiful, and then going out to have lunch with whoever is in the area and we're close with and they want to. Very casual and probably not a huge group, but that may change since both of us have family in the area and our best friends.

Then in September of this year, depending on this military stuff, or maybe not til May-Sept 2010 we will have the actual wedding. If we do it in Charleston, I think I've found the venue. It's gorgeous and exactly what I'm looking for - which is somewhere casual but still nice, where it'll feel like a nice weekend getaway instead of just a 4 hour wedding. So now its just time to plan (dresses, colors, food, etc.) and actually get engaged/fill in people who haven't been so they don't feel like I intentionally didn't tell them but did tell other people. That certainly isn't the case - I haven't told very many people who haven't straight up asked me about it.